0504 Female Led Relationships: How to Stay Intentional in Your FLR When Life Gets Messy

Okay, friends—NEW EPISODE! And we’re back, for real this time.

This episode is part update, part catch-up, and very much a heart-to-heart. If you’re new here, welcome to the chaos. If you’ve been around a while, thank you for hanging in there while we hit the reset button and slowly rebuild our content from the ground up (shout out to YouTube for the boot, again…).

In this one, we’re talking about everything from our new dedicated studio space (finally!) and my keyholding offering, to what happens when FLR gets buried under life stuff—jobs, caregiving, second jobs, and trying to keep the damn bus organized.

We also dive into ways to stay intentional in your dynamic when life is moving at 90 miles an hour and why small rituals, like kneeling affirmations or 5-minute phone-free check-ins, matter more than you think. Plus, we spill some tea about exciting content coming to TikTok, our first print-on-demand couples journal, and a game from Oxy-Shop you’re definitely going to want to play...

💡 What You’ll Walk Away With:

• Real talk on FLR burnout and bouncing back
• Ways to re-center your dynamic during chaotic seasons
• Why consistency in small rituals builds deeper connection
• What it looks like to actually live this lifestyle on a busy, messy schedule
• Updates on coaching, keyholding, Patreon, and our brand-new studio space!

🎯 Krystine’s Coaching + Keyholding Now Open Yep, I’m back to coaching and offering keyholding for a very limited number of people (5 total, 3 slots currently open). If you’re looking for FLR structure, guidance, accountability—or someone to literally hold yo

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Transcript

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If you're new here, yeah, YouTube gave us the boot. The boot, the boot. This podcast is intended for mature audiences only. If you are not 18 years of age or older, there are thousands of other podcasts you can listen to and you can come back and visit us when you are 18. This podcast is meant solely for entertainment. We are not licensed doctors, lawyers or therapists. We simply have a fascination with the lifestyle and I'd love to share it with you and get your thoughts and opinions. Welcome back. Where are we? So big. We are in our studio. I like it so far. It's coming together. So this is a real time. Yeah. Updated. Yeah, it is Sunday the... April 5th, 6th. April 6th. Yep. 2025. Yep. This is not a republish. Nope. We've been doing a whole bunch of those and I think the last new one we did was a couple months ago. I haven't done one of these in a hot minute. I'm almost uncomfortable. Why? I don't know. I'm just trying to sit up straight, good posture. Yeah, so this is our studio and we started out, this podcast started out in the booth under the steps, I think. I was a person under the stairs. And then we did some at the camper at the naked campground. And then we did some in the second camper at the naked campground. And then we did some at the apartment in Wabasha. That we had a temporary booth as well. Yep. And then I don't remember where we were the last time we did one. Well, we did some in the truck in Arizona at the laundromat. Yep. We did some walk talks. Yep, we did a whole bunch of those. Those were not a big hit. I mean. Anyway. Yeah. You're not in the mindset to comment on that. And because we travel, travel. Yeah, if you're new here. Yeah. We live in a converted school bus. Correct. And we had been in Florida. Oh, Florida. In February. It was delightful. And we got a call on one Friday that my mom's health was declining in a rapid rate. Yeah, that was a whole. And then, so we pulled the plug on Florida. Almost literally pulled the plug. And, yep. Just hauled ass back home. Only to find out that the person that was talking to us about my mom's decreasing health. Jumped the gun just a little bit. He made it sound like she was going to die before we got home. Right. Which was very unsettling considering we were 20 some hours away. Correct. In a school bus that goes about 60, 65 miles an hour. And you don't push him much more than that. Nope. Well, he's capped off at like 67 or 73. I'm not sure which one. Anyway. So, we hauled ass back home. And we have the bus parked here. And I've been seeing my mom daily. Bring her a little something, something. Goodies and stuff to drink or whatever. And she's actually stabilized and doing pretty well considering. So, then we had the long conversation about, okay, now what do we do? Right. Because we were gone and her health was failing. I can blame the facility that she's in. But it's warm, dry, clean. So, we'll fight whatever we need to fight, right? But we had attempted to do some content in the bus. That was a fail. Here's what we found out about Ms. Christine. She's not overly productive when she has to work in her home without a dedicated space. And we have decided we will not be traveling next winter. Right. Unless, now his mom has dementia. So, anything could change at any time. Right. However, we have a year lease on this studio. So, we will certainly be in the state of Minnesota for the next year. Yep. Does that mean we won't travel at all? No. Oh, hell no. We'll travel sporadically. But our main goal is being here for one of us to go see his mom at least once a day. And just monitor things because shit show. Right. So, that's where we're at. And then, in addition to having this studio, we thought, well, since Ocean Tree Creative has been in a lull, basically. We pulled the plug on some clients and stuff and just it got overwhelming and not lucrative whatsoever. And we needed to take a break from that with the exception of one client that we, thank you. But we decided to see if we could turn this into another revenue stream. So, we'll be working probably through the summer just trying to drum up some clientele. We'll work through the winter recording all the content in here and coaching people on how to do the content. We will be doing a shit ton of content in here. And you will be seeing that probably mostly on TikTok. Yes, TikTok. I said it. I don't understand. Well, it's controversial. Why? Maybe it'll go away. The Chinese are listening. Oh, fuck. Okay. I mean, listen. I'm not disputing. I mean, I don't know. I choose to live in my ignorant bubble or I guess I choose to live in a 38-foot school bus. Yeah. It is what it is. But TikTok is a platform where a lot of stuff will be put out. Unfortunately, because of YouTube, you won't be able to see the full episode of the podcast on video unless you subscribe to my Patreon because YouTube keeps getting banned. And I am running out of ways to create new YouTube accounts. So, I have one left. Besides my personal one, and I'm not willing to give that one up. I use it for other things. So, to view the whole podcast in video format, you will have to subscribe to my Patreon. And that is where I will put it because I have to leave them unpublished because people get their fucking panties in a bunch. Yeah. So, YouTube gave us the boot a while back. We talked about it on the podcast. I don't know if you're that far. If you're new here, YouTube gave us the boot a while back. And we lost a shit ton of video and content when our stuff was stolen in San Francisco. So, we're really starting over. Yep. Pretty much square one. And that is why we're re-releasing. Starting at episode one, we started in January, re-releasing the audio podcast weekly. There's sometimes two. There's sometimes three a week. There's sometimes one a week. You know, it's whatever we can do with the time that we're afforded. And on that note, we are also working other jobs. So, I have a full-time job. He posted on Facebook and some friends needed. They were moving and they have solidly kept him busy. We appreciate the fuck out of them. Lots of handyman type work. Yep. Solidly kept him busy since we've been back, which has been so, so, so helpful. We're so thankful. Yep. That's how this came about pretty much. And we will both be starting second jobs or whatever. It will be a second job for me. Yeah, whatever. This summer, we'll be work camping at a campground. So, having a dedicated space where we can just come and not have to worry about what time of day it is, if my kid is sleeping. It's a good place for me. It's a workspace. It's not a space where I sit and scroll TikTok like I do in our bus. So, I have a lot of things that I want to do. We have a lot of things that are in the works. Keyholding is one of the things. Yeah. Let's talk about that quick. Shall we? Yep. I currently am offering keyholding. I have four. I'm only doing it for five people. I have four spaces available. Probably more like technically three. I have one that could possibly be filled, but I don't know. What that looks like is it's a set fee each month. I send you proof of me wearing the key every day. You send me proof that you are wearing the matching item that goes with the key. There's up to five text messages a day in response. There's obviously negotiations for more or less communication and other add-ons. It's much like a female-led relationship. We start out with the ice cream. We're going to add all the sprinkles. Sprinkles. So, that's ongoing. That's the thing. If you have questions, you can reach out via email. I don't know if my website. Oh, yes. Website is back. ChristineKellogg.com. Okay. It goes to what's called a pod page. Over the next month or so, that will actually look like a website and not just cluttered up with a bunch of stuff. In addition to that, we now have our studio, which means that it will be much easier for me to do lives on TikTok too. I don't know how many people listen to the podcast that are also on TikTok, but I want to do some lives on there. Just to answer general questions, it's going to be very vanilla because TikTok will kick my ass off in 2.5 seconds, and I don't want to lose TikTok. They do offer some sort of subscription where I can do subscriber-only lives. I might be able to talk a little bit more in-depth about things on those. We are just going to do the lives for now to see how much interest there is. If there's a lot of interest in me doing this subscriber-only, then I will do that. We could even run a live while we're recording an episode and answer things in real time or something like that. Yeah, we did that in Vegas once with Instagram. That's one of the other things that is coming down the line. There's all kinds of things that's going to be available on TikTok. There are playlists that will be available with tracks for different things. General female-led relationship course, submissive male course, chastity course, cuckold course. All these different courses will be available when they're available. It's not like, hey, you need to spend $1,097 on this. That's just fucking stupid.$99, $99. Yeah, none of that. It'll be low price. We have a little something else we're working on. Do you want me to say what it is? Yeah, what the fuck we can say. We are working on a journal for couples or you could use it individually. You just customize it. You don't customize it. You just make it fit you. Much like your relationship, you take what works for you and you just use it. We have a very, very, very rough draft. Yep. We are currently working on print-on-demand because we, again, live in a bus and don't have room to store all of them. Yes, and the print-on-demand is a little bit of a challenge because of the tariffs. Oh, shit. Yep, and things that come from China, but I've found a couple that are U.S.-sourced, U.S.-based, ones that we've used already. Yeah. So I'm looking into that kind of stuff just to make sure things keep rolling. There's no giant jack-up of price or anything like that. We want to keep the barrier to entry very low, right, because not everybody makes multiple six figures. We do not. That's us. Okay? So something very easy to get into, but we want to provide materials and content that is helpful beyond this podcast. Yes. So... And we won't always be doing it from camping chairs, but I know you're jealous. This bitch rocks. Yeah. It's pretty fucking fantastic, if I do say so myself. We might be doing these episodes in these chairs. We don't know yet. We haven't decided. We will not. It's going to be a beautiful studio soon enough. We just need the time. It's more about the time than the money this time, which is interesting. Yep. But let's quit talking about all of that stuff. One more thing. Oh. One quick thing. Fine. We have another property, another channel that has to do with wellness and healthy things and... Affirmations. Healthy mind things and all that called Wander Path Wellness on TikTok only. And there's daily affirmations that drop and there are F-bombs and then there are Emmer F-bombs and all these things because it's just real. Why are you saying it like there's motherfuckers and there's fuckers and there's fucking shit? God dang. Shit, damn. God dang. All the things. God dang. That's a swear word. Yep. All the things. It's just aimed towards people that just believe in real and these are real. And a lot of these things come from personal experiences. Yes. So Miss Christine does the voiceover for them and I put them together and put them on the old TikToker. Mm-hmm. Yep. I need to do a really quick update. The ladies group this Thursday, which is the second Thursday of the month, will not occur because I have a big girl job now and I have to work at night. I will be posting in Patreon but I'm going to have to modify this month's meeting. It's probably either going to occur on the third or fourth Thursday or it's going to occur on a Monday. I don't know. I have to figure out. Yes. I have to look at my schedule. It's a fucking shit show. And just when I think I'm getting used to what they schedule me, they switch it up. Yeah. The ladies group for April will not occur this Thursday, which is April. Could you look at a phone? Today's this. So tomorrow's the 7th, 8th, 9th, 10th. So April 10th. No ladies group. Nope. Due to having a big girl job. Right. So let's talk about us, shall we? Yeah. Other than what we're doing. Yeah. I feel very. Because I'm sure there'll be reviews of, hey, they don't ever talk about female led relationships. You are so negative. I'm just saying. It happens. People love me. They love everything I say, especially when I say it in a porn voice. That's a whole different podcast. Oh, whoops. Yeah. Check out erotic stories. Way to pump that. Organically, right? Yes. We're going to have to get different chairs because I feel like uncomfortable. Like, I feel like I'm not relaxed. Maybe I need headphones. Okay. Us. How are we? How are we doing? I would love your take on how you feel our female led relationship is going. Despite my crabby-ness right now, I think we're doing pretty fucking good. Yeah. And he's, I have learned that he is just crabby in general. Yes. It is not me. No. He's just an old man. Yes. I am Walter. From Jeff Dunham. Yep. I just need a hot minute to cool off of things. But I'm not mad at you. And by hot minute, he means like six to 12 hours. Okay. That might be stretching it just a skosh. Is it? Maybe. Or not. I don't know. Yeah. We don't, I mean, we just adapt. Yep. He's never really a dick to me. And when he is, we put him in his place. Yep. The booth, the studio, whatever we want to call it, will also double as a private place with a door until we have one for things to occur. Yes. There will be furniture here. I am going to whoop his ass. I'm so excited. We have to figure out what good times for that is because we share this building with other offices. I feel like the insurance agent won't care. Just kidding. I don't know the things. Hard to say. Need to cover up vents and stuff. I wonder if you can hear what we're saying right now. I don't know. Probably. I don't know if anybody's here. It's a Sunday. So speaking of. So this booth or this studio will be that. Yes. Also. Yes. It is a great place for us to escape. We were doing really well on being intentional. So we had a rough patch. We had a season. We discussed. I was also gone for like three weeks. And I think that was helpful as much as I hated it. I mean, I hated it, but I didn't. And things really ramped up with us while I was gone. Between us. Between us. Yes. While I was gone. So we were doing really well when I came back at being intentional. I think the distance made it apparent front and center. We were really focused on each other. And I think we still are. I think it's fallen off a little bit. Right. Because we get into our routines. Yes. And it's hard. I mean, it's hard. We don't really see each other a whole lot now either because I tend to work on the weekends. And he's not working on the weekends. And then I'm also working during the week. You're working all the fucking time. I am working all the time. But it's for a good. Yeah, there's a long game. Yes, it's a long play. It won't always be like this. But I do think it's important for us to be intentional. While it is like this. I think this studio is going to be great. It's going to be a great place where we can even just have a check-in without any interruptions. Because as I get older, I'm noticing that I get so distracted so easily. Small things like him leaving the blinker on makes me want to rip my fucking hair out of my head. And it's not even that loud, but it's like amplified in my brain. So this will be a good place for us to come, whether it is for a spanking or whatever. But even recording this podcast is such a good way for us to connect and talk about things. Things I would like to implement, I just asked this on my Patreon. Do you have a contract for a female-led relationship? We do not. I do feel like, though, that we should. And here's why I feel like we should. I feel like we should have a contract because it's something in writing that we can refer back to to hold ourselves accountable. I think it's important. Yeah, it's the structure. It's the thing to refer to, the owner's manual, kind of. And I think both of us have a terrible time adjusting to new routines. Because I want... We talked about this while I was in Kentucky. We figured out something that you were going to say to me every single day. And while you have said it a couple times, it has not happened every single day. And I think until it does, I'm going to feel awkward when you say it to me. You know what I mean? Like, I don't know how to receive it. That's valid. But the more you say it to me, the more I'm going to be like, damn right, bitch. You know what I mean? Maybe not those words exactly. It could be. I'm not opposed. Right. You're such a good bitch. That I do say a lot. What else? I wouldn't... I do like it. I totally lost my train of thought. Lost my mic. You were on the habits and stuff. Oh, yes. There are things that I want to implement that we really need to be more intentional about. And I think it's things that need to get in place. I mean, we have a couple weeks maybe until we start our second job, our summer job. And there's a lot that needs to be done to the bus to get it ready to move. There's a lot that needs to get done. There's just so much shit in general. Yeah, for your projects. Now, we don't know what our schedule is going to look like there. There it might just be weekends. So my daytime job, I'll have to work five days a week there. And then I'll have weekends at the campground. I don't know. We'll see what it looks like. Yeah, things ramp up in the summer there. But we don't know. We're not working 10 to 12-hour days. So that will be helpful. Yeah. I mean, chances are we won't be. Not very often. So that will leave time in the evenings. Or like right now, early morning before I go to work, we're just whipping this out so that we can talk about it. But there's. We need to be intentional to find the time. And this gives us the environment to do that in. Yeah. So that's very helpful. Yes. And I also want to have people on the podcast. Yeah. I need. I can't reach out just yet for people that I want on the podcast because I don't really know what a schedule is going to look like. I'm kind of waiting on the campground. Yeah. And then once I know what the campground wants, because they're the priority right now, then I can shuffle everything else around. And then I am going to probably request specific, at least one specific date, maybe even during the week. Yeah. I mean, you could start conversations anyways. Yeah. Right. You can just kind of chit-chat back and forth like, hey, you know, I want to just break the ice and whatever. And if you're listening, if you're interested in, you know, you can be anonymous if you want. But we want to have the conversations. Yeah. There's a lot. Like there is a couple that are, well, I think it's a couple on my Patreon, that I would love to have them on my podcast. And if you're listening to this, you know who you are. It sounds like we are so much alike. And I would just like to have the conversation about what it was, because they're early on in their dynamic. And I'm curious, are you guys going through the same struggles that we went through in the beginning or even somebody who's been in a female led relationship for years? I would love to know, like, what have you guys gone through? What have you experienced? How did you handle it? And also a question on the day for Patreon was, you know, when communication falls. Flat. Flat. Or there's just lack of communication. Because we've certainly experienced that. Like we literally get into the like day to day. We got to. We're just putting out fucking fires. We are. Constantly. Yeah. Just trying to survive. Time is really our biggest enemy right now. And I'm not saying that we shouldn't do this, but going to see your mom every day does take a big chunk of time. It takes an hour at least out of the day, but you have to work the day around that. And it's totally worth it. I'm not. I'm not saying that. I know. I know. That also is going to take away when we're working the two jobs or whatever. Right. We just tend to communicate only about things that we need to survive on daily. We don't really talk about anything else. Yeah. Mission critical shit. Yeah. Really. We have really fallen off on our check-ins. Like when we lived in the house, we used to do that every single day, even if it was just for five minutes. We also used to hug for at least 30 seconds. And we would have. To be fair, recently, especially you were at your daughter's. Yeah. So proximity has to do with that too. Right. But that's not, I mean, that's not an excuse overall. You know, like even when you came to pick me up from her house, like I just grabbed my shit and we left. I gave her a hug and then, you know, like we hadn't seen each other. Right. We had because we met during the week for different things. But right. But there is no reconnection. I mean, that's, that's valid for sure. So that's something that I would like to work on for us. And I'm going to bring you guys along for the journey. Some of these episodes might be us talking about the struggles we've had during the week or the victories that we've had during the week. I mean, there is that. It's just a lot about being intentional. And I am so focused on right now, trying not to be overwhelmed with everything that's going on. I'm very, very excited about the studio. All that to say, you know, you can have your FLR, right. And then there's life. Okay. And yes, you will get overwhelmed. That does not mean that you need to give up on your FLR. Right. Right. It's there. It's it can always be there. Right. It just means that you need to be more intentional to focus on it. My suggestion to anybody who is like me and gets easily overwhelmed is dial it back. There should be maybe three or four foundational things that require little to no effort, but are so, so important. I, in my opinion, for us, a check-in with no fucking phones. Cause we're both ridiculous with our goddamn phones. Ridiculous. Five minutes. Like we don't even eat anymore without scrolling, tick tock or talking to your little helper or you know what I mean? Like there, there's so many because there's so many things that need to get done. I understand, but we need to be more intentional about having a conversation, whether it's about our day. I don't know if I want to talk about work. Well, we're eating, but I don't know. We'll figure it out. But five minutes to just reconnect. Yeah. I mean, that's a great, during the meal is when you talk about all that stuff. Absolutely. At the table for the supper. Yeah. Which is a TV tray. In our bus. And I love every fucking little inch of that TV tray. Yep. Second, I want you to get back into what? She loves every single little inch. The same could be said about my little subbie. Any who. My little bitch. Anyway, I would also like you to get back in the routine on the one knee, saying what you were saying. Our mantra. Yes. A little one sentence, two sentence thing. Yes. And say it the right way. Listen, these are things that ladies, ladies, you can establish and, and expect from your man. Right. And you deserve to be treated that way. Like that was a big thing for me to overcome. Like that, I think is why I'm so uncomfortable when he gets on one knee and says the things that he says to me, because I don't know how to receive that. I'm terrible at receiving compliments and I'm trying to really grasp the mindset of, I deserve to be treated with respect. I'm worth it. And he should love me this way. Absolutely. That's where I'm at with that. I can't think of what else I was going to say. I think really, I mean, really, if you just have to tone it down and keep it to two things, like, I think even these two things, us being intentional with, with that will help me add in one thing, but we have to get into the routine. Yep. And it takes 21 days to create a habit. In case anybody didn't know. 21 to 30 days. But it starts with day one, right? And then you do day two. Don't think of it as 21 days. Just do it. I heard a quote today while I was scrolling TikTok. Interesting. You don't have to be great to start. You just have to start to be great. Yeah. I subscribe to that. That's a good quote. Yep. I think that was all I was going to say is that you don't have to make it more complicated than it is. If you start to feel overwhelmed, pare back and then add things in as you start to feel more comfortable. Yep. Because the confidence will come. It always comes. Well, it sometimes comes. It doesn't always get to come. No. I will say this as a complete side note. If you are experiencing any lack of ideas for the bedroom, Oxy shop, which I believe our new friends. Yes. So I'm also an affiliate with ox. Is it oxy dash shop? Is that what it is? He'll put a link in the podcast. Yes, I will do that. But they have a game. This website is fucking fantastic. Yep. They have a game that one of my fantastic ladies told me about. They have a chastity version and I think the BDSM version or whatever, but it's like a dice game, card game, whatever. I'm going to order it and we're going to do, it'll be a little short snippets episodes here and there where we'll talk about the different cards that are in there. Maybe we should play the game. We could play the game. Yeah. We could play the game on a lot. Nope. Anyway, I want to get the game and I want to incorporate it and incorporate it into the podcast somehow. But just from what I've seen on the website, it looks like it would be fantastic at at least giving you some ideas or to spark your creativity to figure things out because sometimes it can be hard to get creative. Yep. Check, find the link in the show notes. It's going to be in every episode and go there and at least look because this shop really, I mean, honestly is catered to this type of lifestyle. It's like a BDSM. Yeah. I mean, that's not necessarily this lifestyle, but it is like a BDSM. Right. But there are the sprinkles. There's all kinds of sprinkles there to add to your thing. Grab the ones you like or, or just, just go and check it out. Yeah. And I think they're pretty reasonably priced. Yep. They're not not. Yeah. Cause listen, if we can afford shit, we'll pass it on to you. I also spent about three hours on that site. I'm going to drive home from Kentucky. I was not driving my ride home. Yep. So I think that's, is there anything else that you wanted to address? This is kind of a hodgepodge of everything, but we were excited to tell you about the studio and to my beautiful patrons. I hope you are enjoying the view of the studio. Hi, Steve and Judy. Hi, Steve and Judy. If you have any topics that you want to hear us talk about more or expand on, or if you relate to anything that we're going through, or what's things that we're missing. Yeah. Yeah. If there's something we haven't talked about that you want us to talk about, you can email me those at Christine Kellogg dot com. Christine is K-R-Y-S-T-I-N-E. I think that's it. It's been so fun to do this. It's a little awkward. Kind of feels like my first episode all over again, but I hope it's a little less awkward than that one. Because that was a mess. Yeah, it could have been worse. Could have been. Thank you for listening. I hope you all have a fantastic week. And stay tuned for more episodes. I love you all. Mwah.