0123 Female Led Relationships: A Beginner's Guide to CBT (Cock and Ball Torture)

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In this episode, I get to open up about one of my life long favorite things, Cock and Ball Torture (CBT) with a mix of humor, personal stories, and insights from Uberkinky.com's beginner's guide. I go over the power dynamics, intense sensations, and the importance of safety and aftercare.

This episode is a must-listen for anyone curious about or experienced in CBT, offering valuable insights into maintaining safety, using quick-release tools, and ensuring a consensual experience with safe words. With detailed discussions on ball busting, stretching, and temperature play, as well as personal anecdotes, you'll gain a deeper understanding of this unique kink.

References:
1. Uberkinky Beginner's Guide to CBT
2. YouTube Channel (No Longer Available - YouTube Shut Me Down)
3. Smutify (No Longer In Business)

Listener Questions:
1. What safety measures should I consider when exploring Cock and Ball Torture?
2. How can I introduce CBT to my partner in a safe and consensual way?
3. What are the benefits of exploring power dynamics in intimate relationships?

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Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:51

Singing is obviously not my thing. This podcast is intended for mature audiences only If you're not 18 years of age or older. There are thousands of other podcasts you can listen to and you can come back and visit us when you are 18. This podcast is meant solely for entertainment. We are not licensed doctors, lawyers or therapists. We simply have a fascination with the lifestyle and I'd love to share it with you and get your thoughts and opinions. Episode 23 welcome back everyone. This week we're going to hit it hard with some discussion about cbt, but first let's address some housekeeping. I want to give a shout out to my bestie in my hometown who has been listening to my podcast and hinting to me for about a week and a half to two weeks that she's been listening to my podcast and I haven't caught on, I believe. In past episodes I have referred to her as vanilla and have now discovered that is her least favorite flavor. So from now on she will be my strawberry bestie, not vanilla. Funny thing, I probably shouldn't have classified her as vanilla in the first place, since she has been to our clothing optional campground. Well, it's not ours. We're residents at a clothing optional campground and she has visited us and has mentioned an interest in coming back. I don't know if somebody that was really vanilla would do that, but I could be very mistaken, because, honestly, what's the definition of vanilla? One of my favorite things about my strawberry bestie is she is open-minded and non-judgmental and she still wants to be my friend even though our lifestyles are significantly different. She may not be kinky, but she is open-minded. Imagine if we lived in a world full of strawberries. Love you, bestie, youtube, Holy hell. Love you, bestie, youtube, holy hell. Thank you everyone for all the views on my videos. I about shit my pants. I'm not going to lie. Well, maybe not literally. Youtube is actually how I was doing my behind the scenes content for my Patreon members and figured when in Rome. So my subbie made up some erotic voiceover samples or sampler podcast, I should say voiced by Christine and got a little response. So he put up the podcast videos that we shoot for social media anyway and prettied them up a little bit and next thing you know, there's 200 views on one of them. So more free content on YouTube. And what's the nice thing about watching the podcast on YouTube after you listen to it on here, of course is that you can share it with your significant other and use it for a guide for talking points. Just a thought three. Lastly, I was interviewed on a brand new podcast called smutify or smutty talk. I can't remember exactly for sure because I'm a little absent-minded today, sorry about that. It's a newish social media market for adults. I do have a profile and a storefront there. It's sort of fun and exciting to be a part of something that's brand new and be on the ground floor. I'll keep you posted on when that episode drops if you want to give it a listen. I'll keep you posted on when that episode drops if you want to give it a listen. Okay, let's dive into some CBT information. And no, it's not cognitive behavioral therapy. However, side note, totally stole that line from uberkinkycom, which I'm a big fan of their website. You guys should totally check it out. But in honesty, if you google CBT, you're going to get cognitive behavioral therapy. I had to enter cock and ball torture to get what I wanted, such as life. Enter cock and ball torture to get what I wanted, such as life. Enter cock and ball torture to get what I want. I'm going to start this conversation by saying my journey into the lifestyle has brought some light to my younger days. What I mean by that is when I was in like fifth grade I used to get in trouble for kicking boys in the balls. Apparently this is something that I've been into for longer than I even realized. Things that make you go. Hmm, I really really enjoyed reading the articles on uberkinkycom, and cock and ball torture is just one of many topics that they have for beginners. There's cock rings for beginners, rope play or bondage, I think, for beginners. Again, my memory is shit tonight so please bear with me, I could be wrong. I know there was cock rings for beginners and then there was the CBT for beginners, which is what I'm going to go over. I kind of figured I was going to enjoy these when the first page starts out with two ways men to the CBT topic. First, an instant erection, or two, a bold dash for the door, cupping their balls and screaming are you nuts? A sense of humor goes a long way with me and these guys are punny. So, like I said, for the purpose of this episode, I am going to touch on things they discussed in their beginner's guide for CBT. Right away in the beginning they address the appeal of CBT and I know this fits my relationship, but it may not everybody's. Some slaves slash subs because I don't really identify my subbie as a slave, but I guess he could be classified. They get gratification from such torment and seeing that, sadistically satisfied, look upon their dominant's face I know this is the case for my subbie face. I know this is the case for my subbie. There is something about the look in my eyes when I am expressing my ownership and punishing him that drives him wild, in turn driving me wild. Well, if you have questions on whether you should give CBT a try, here are five reasons why you should. One all the sensitive nerve endings around your penis and balls just begging to be played with. Stimulating these nerve endings with CBT causes waves of endorphins, your body's natural painkiller, to be released. The effects are similar to that of morphine or codeine and the result is an incredibly intense natural high. Two increased blood flow to your genitals, making them become enlarged, causing a pleasure result rather than pain. The body also releases adrenaline and your man parts become even more enlarged, intensifying the experience. Now that everything is nice and enlarged, your cock and balls are an amazing, amazing target for punishment and pain. Thus a new pleasure pain, association is born. Number three this is where they're punny. Two heads are better than one. Experience a newfound emotional connection with your partner that is not just in the mind. The extreme satisfaction of pleasing your playmate, as well as the level of trust between the two of you, will be stronger than ever, and I feel like I've touched on this a couple times about the emotional connection that comes along with either the way you live your life with your relationship or just in play in general. Number four with the increase in lick, suck or tickle causing your man to be on a climactic brink I would also maybe classify it as a climactic brink Sounds very much like edging to me. Number five the release. This was new to me. Might be common knowledge to others, but I didn't realize this and I find it fascinating. Many CBT toys are designed to restrict the testicles from moving upwards at the point of climax. The resistance felt makes the orgasm extremely intense. The lower down the testicles are, the further the ejaculate must travel, prolonging this intensity. The pleasure felt at the point of orgasm, in contrast to the torture endured, is incredibly powerful. Fun fact about me I truly enjoy watching men cum. I don't know what it is, just being honest, it's just fucking hot. And now that I have everyone's attention, let's talk about safety. And now that I have everyone's attention, let's talk about safety, very important when dealing with your man's jewels. Again, this is all coming from the article that I found at uberkinkycom. I will have the link in the show notes, but I thought it was very well written and, as I always say, you should also do your own research. But let's talk about safety Circulation, circulation, circulation. It is important to pay attention to circulation because with increased pressure there is danger of cutting off circulation completely. And while I enjoy torturing my subbie, I am rather fond of his man parts and I'm rather fond of them being attached to his body. Keep a close eye out for loss of sensation, swelling or loss of color. Sensation, swelling or loss of color. Some common side effects you might experience in CBT are abrasions, bruises and small cuts. These will heal in time. But if you decide to be a good dom and provide some ice as aftercare to help reduce the swelling, it will probably be greatly appreciated. Might also be a good idea to use some antiseptic cream if there are small cuts to prevent infection. Nobody wants an infection in their sack, some dull and painful ache in the balls after CBT is normal, also known as as blue balls, and should not last for an extended period of time after your play has ended. If the pain does persist or you notice abnormalities, including swelling or blood spots underneath the skin, see your doctor immediately. Schedule an urgent visit. Severe pain and nausea indicate probably an ER visit. You don't want to mess around with that. Get medical attention right away. Some additional things recommended to do be aware of or don't do during CBT or before. Guys or doms, if you want to do it, or gals. However, trim your bush so your partner has a clear view of your jewels. Got to be able to see if there's loss of sensation or discoloration. Alleviate pressure every 20 to 30 minutes to restore circulation. Now, in our case, if we have 20 to 30 minutes of playtime, we need to accomplish a lot in that short amount of time, so this won't be an issue for us, but we can have a lot of fun in that short amount of time. We're pros. Do not leave clamps on for long periods of time. Do not leave CBT devices or weights on for a prolonged period of time or through the night. Avoid bindings that cannot be easily untied or removed. Keep quick-release tools handy, such as EMT scissors or cock ring cutters. Be gentle with piercings. Discuss boundaries and safe words ahead of time. I say that a lot start out slow. Good rule of thumb in general gradually increase intensity and pay attention to your partner and their reactions stop immediately if pain starts to spread to other areas. Avoid practices that seriously wrench or twist genitals. This is an important one. Do not tie balls to anything. A sudden jerk reaction could result in serious danger. Now, this warning is here because this has happened to somebody. Don't let it happen to you. Ouch, this one makes me cringe. Do not insert anything into the urethra without adequate lubrication. Now, for me this is a hard no. I've had a catheter in the past and have a firm belief that on my body or me, doing this to someone else's body is going to be a hard. No, that hole is an exit only hole Like legit. I'm like scrunching my legs together right now, fucking ouch. I'm not saying other people shouldn't do it either, by the way. I'm just saying for me personally. I don't think I can do it. Do not squeeze the penis too hard. It could damage erectile tissue. I may be guilty of that at times. Sometimes it's just so fun to give it a good squeeze. Do not use sharp hits or let go of weights suddenly. Lower them down gradually and gently. Gravity can be a bitch. Okay, let's talk about the fun stuff. We are all here for different CBT types. I'm going to read off the list that they have listed on their site, but I'm only going to cover a few. Here's the list they have listed. That's a lot of listing Ball busting, ball stretching, ball crushing, needle play, urethral play, ouch, hard pass knife play. I would need to do more investigating before I maybe went with that. Sensation and temperature play, genital bondage, electrostimulation, genital spanking, creams and oils. So the ones that resonate with me immediately ball busting, stretching and crushing are the most appealing. So let's start with them. Ball busting, or BB for short, refers to the act of kicking, kneeing or punching the testicles. Seems right up my alley since fifth grade. Uber Kinky has specially designed tools to imitate the effect of ball busting. Did I mention this site also sells toys and tools, some of which I have never seen before and are quite fascinating. I will be diving deep into what they have on their site because I'm very curious. Ball stretching is an interesting one to me. I've never tried it. I am absolutely not opposed to it. Here's their description of ball stretching Gradually applying pressure to the scrotum, pulling it downwards and away from the body. Of course, they offer a tool to assist you in this task. My favorite part about their tool is that it will stop those naughty testicles from pulling a disappearing act, like my subbies do quite regularly, if he takes the cage off and goes to put it back on Ball crushing. This device is designed to gradually squeeze the testicles with the turn of a screw or nut. To gradually squeeze the testicles with the turn of a screw or nut. I like it because it's all in my hands to determine the amount of pressure I want to use. Now for ball crushing. You can get creative and use household items. You don't have to buy their tools or toys or gadgets. I've done this myself with a bare foot and also a spiked heel. Sensation and temperature play. I have done the sensation part with my subbie as well. We have a pinwheel. It's very small and it's covered with very small pins that are very close together. I personally enjoy rubbing this up and down his cock and balls. It's a real strange sensation because the pins are so small but there's so many of them. I did it on my arm and it's just weird. It's like your body doesn't know what to do with the sensation. Like it kind of feels good but it kind of doesn't, almost like when you touch. I don't even know how to compare what it would be like when you touch something. It's a very interesting sensation. I would highly recommend this to anyone. Electro stimulation is something that we haven't tried, but I'm very interested in doing more research on this one. I would absolutely want to do pretty significant amounts of research, just because anything with electricity in the human body makes me a little nervous. I don't want to fuck anything up, but stay tuned. Genital spanking is a good one as well. It's spanking with a twist. I've used my flogger and riding crop and find both quite satisfying. However, you have to be sure not to hit overly hard. You could cause permanent damage or lasting damage. This last one was something that I've never. It's creams and oils. I have never done this, but I think I like the idea behind it. The suggestion is to put Icy Hat on his more sensitive areas. It's a cold sensation followed by a deep burn that provides intense stimulation. Now, obviously it's not really burning him, but I bet it sure fucking feels like it. The site also suggests chili oil. If you want to spice things up, that would make me a little nervous. Sometimes I think ketchup is spicy. That's my spice tolerance. I think this would be a fun one to try. So I think I'm just going to put it in my back pocket for now. Uber Kinky shows some examples of tools that can assist you in your CBT adventure. I'm not going to cover these because I think it's important to cover some aftercare information. I did cover some of the aftercare in the beginning, but I think it's important to bring it up again just to be on the safe side. Sometimes repetition works well, especially for me. Repetition works well, especially for me, once you have finished your play. Rest and gradually ease yourself back into the real world. Once you have finished your play, rest and gradually ease yourself back into the real world. This play can be very intense, as mentioned at the beginning, I think in general I've noticed that having some downtime before just with plain sex or any type of play, it's always good to give yourself some time to come down from that, especially when it comes to CBT come down from that. Especially when it comes to CBT, allow yourself some time to recover before standing up and getting on with your daily tasks, and this next one is proof that chocolate is good for you. Enjoy a piece of chocolate After all, you earned it. The chemical effects of chocolate are somewhat similar to that of subspace, so it should make your transition a little easier. Keep a blanket or something warm to put on handy, as body temps can suddenly drop after a scene has ended and it's important to stay warm. It is also important to give your balls a gentle wash. You want to keep them clean in case there are any open cuts that aren't visible just yet. No one wants an infection. As I said above as well, an ice pack can help with the swelling as well. An ice pack can help with the swelling, and for fuck's sake, do not place the ice pack directly on your skin. Your skin down there is quite sensitive. You are going to end up in a hell of a lot of pain if you get frostbite on your testicles. Up in a hell of a lot of pain if you get frostbite on your testicles. And some antiseptic cream for any of your cuts to avoid infection, as mentioned above, Uber Kinky recommends no masturbation or intercourse until your manhood has fully recovered. You may find you feel a small, small dull pain with erections for a while Normal, nothing to worry about. If the pain is severe and you notice other abnormalities, seek medical attention. Better safe than sorry. When in doubt, have it checked out. I think that about wraps this up. If anyone has any tips or fun things they like to do during CBT and they'd like to share, please get a hold of me. I love hearing suggestions and comments from my listeners. For example, I got a message from one of my OF fans who informed me that a roll of the dice was going to determine his next orgasm. It was the first dice multiplied by the second dice. That's how long it would be before he was allowed to orgasm again. That is fucking fantastic. Love it. Thank you so much for sharing. I also think I am going to throw another poll up on my Patreon for my Patreon peeps to give me some more feedback on what they would like me to discuss on the next episode. If you are interested in becoming one of my Patreon supporters, the link is in the show notes. Thank you everyone for taking time to listen to my podcast. I appreciate you all. Stay safe. Thank you everyone for taking time to listen to my podcast. I appreciate you all. Stay safe, have a fantastic week and we will chat soon.