0115 Female Led Relationships:Beyond the Kink

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As the host of the podcast, I'm not only documenting my steps into a female-led relationship (FLR) I'm sharing it with you, in the hope that anything in any of my episodes is helpful to you! I'm honestly driven by a passion for challenging "normal" dynamics. I am also dedicated to exploring how modern women assert their power in both love and leadership, and how this shift benefits relationships, especially for partners with high-stress occupations.

In this episode, I step foot into the intricacies of female-led relationships, dispelling myths and highlighting their benefits beyond mere kink. We explore the empowering aspects of FLRs, emphasizing communication, trust, and the absence of traditional power struggles. 

Listeners will find this episode invaluable as it offers a fresh perspective on relationship dynamics and the empowering nature of female leadership in modern love. The episode is essential for anyone interested in female empowerment, relationship evolution, and navigating the often hostile online environment. Key topics include female-led relationships, social media negativity, and personal empowerment.

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Questions:
1. What are the benefits of female-led relationships in modern dynamics?
2. How do female-led relationships differ from traditional relationship structures?
3. What impact does social media negativity have on personal relationships?

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Transcript

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What woman doesn't like to be in control? I like to be in control. This podcast is intended for mature audiences only, if you are not 18 years of age or older. There are thousands of other podcasts you can listen to and you can come back and visit us when you are 18. This podcast is meant solely for entertainment. We are not licensed doctors, lawyers or therapists. We simply have a fascination with the lifestyle and I'd love to share it with you and get your thoughts and opinions. Welcome back, everyone. Episode 15. It's my favorite time of the week. I love coming in here and just chatting with you. Essentially, I'm chatting with myself, but it's fun. I enjoy it. It's my favorite part of the week. This week we're going to talk about female-led relationships and how they're more than just a kink. Stay tuned, because right now we're going to address some housekeeping issues. I have been pounding the social media pavement hard that's a fun word For the last few months. Not only am I getting amazing feedback, which I appreciate so much, I'm also starting to get some orders, which I am loving. It's so fun. If you're interested in a custom erotic voiceover or if you have something specific you'd like me to say, I've done voicemail. I can do anything. If you're interested, dm me or shoot me an email. I'll have all of my contact info below in the show notes. Welcome to any of my newbies who are listening for the first time or are new followers on any of my social platforms, welcome. I am working on some interview material. I am working on some interview material and figuring out when I can get my subbie back on here with me. I love doing episodes with him. It's so much fun and we're much more long-winded. It's easier when you have somebody in front of you to talk to, that's there and can respond. So stay tuned. He should be back soon. All right, let's get into it. So this week, as I said, we are going to discuss how living a female-led relationship is much more than just a kink. I think when most people think about female-led relationships, they think of it as a game. So they imagine the woman in control and the man's tied up, handcuffed, and she's beating him or humiliating him, and then, as soon as that time is done, the whole female-led relationship is just done. It's not a relationship, it's just kinky playtime. It's really not. It's so much more than that. There's so many reasons that men and women seek out this type of relationship, and I think the biggest misunderstanding is people believe that it's all about kink play, it's about that hour or two of fun every so often, whether it be every week or whatever, and it's not. It's so much more than that. However, don't get me wrong. That kind of playtime is real fun. So back to basics. What exactly is a female-led relationship? Let me take a sip. I need my Celsius. A female-led relationship is a relationship where a woman takes the lead and serves as the dominant partner, while the man serves as the submissive one. It is quite the opposite as what society has imposed over the years, and this is one of the reasons FLR relationships are seen as taboo in today's society. However, as women fight for equality in overall society, their dominance in the household is getting stronger and the myth that men should be the dominant beings are slowly falling away and female-led relationships are becoming more common. Relationships are becoming more common. I believe that, going into the future, female-led relationships are going to be much more common than they ever have been in the past. I think the world is changing enough, I would like to say people are accepting enough to understand that everybody has their own beliefs and their own type of relationship, and if it's not hurting you or anyone else, then fucking leave it alone. I think female-led relationships are going to be much more common, and maybe they're more common now than I even realize and I'm just living in my own little bubble, which I sometimes do. Let's kind of go over some topics of why women seek a female-led relationship. Well, there's many. Me personally, I like to control. Things. Works out for me. Now, it hasn't always been that way. I haven't always been one to like to control. As I've stated before, in my past relationships I was always about making everybody else happy. It was never about what I wanted, it was always about what they wanted. So, thinking about that, I wonder if that makes me more of a submissive, or if that's just the nurturing nature that I have, or if I was codependent as fuck. Hard to say. However, I am no longer that way. What I've noticed since I've been in this lifestyle? I think that women have been in control a lot longer than anyone realizes. But we're smart. We present it in a way where I think sometimes the men don't realize that we're really in control, or from the outside it looks like the man's in control and in actuality, the woman is really the backbone and I think it's been that way for years. Even in the fifties and sixties, I think the women really ran the household Overall, I think women have always kind of been in control. With a female led relationship, the man is acknowledging the woman's control, where in the past I don't think it was ever acknowledged. It was just there. I think women now are much more vocal. That's the word I think I'm looking for. Women are much more vocal in what they want. They stand up for themselves more. They don't settle, and I think that is ever growing as time goes on. I think women are going to continue to evolve and not settle. Overall, I think it's women are just being sick of not getting treated equally, so they're taking the reins and saying listen, fuckers, we're in control, we'll make the decisions. You'll do as you're told, don't worry, I'll take care of you. In addition to being able to make decisions, essentially, when you're in a female-led relationship, you can mold your man into whatever you want, and in a good female-led relationship, the man will let you mold him into whatever you want and he'll be happy because you are happy, which is fantastic. How is this, even a lose situation in any way. Where's the negative to this If the woman's making all the decisions and the man just does what he's told? I mean, what a stress relief for the man. He doesn't have to do anything, he just does what he's told. No decision-making, he can focus on other things. I think some women like female-led relationships because they get to control things from finances to kitchen management. Society has imposed a way of how things should work and be organized in a household which should not be unique. Yes, men can be the head of the household, but women who are not satisfied about how this works look for female-led relationships to gain the control of all the final decisions. Also, women get the opportunity to mold the man to whatever she wants him to be. Now, that's true to a certain extent. I think the biggest thing like I say almost on every single one of my episodes is communication is key. You have to have boundaries, you have to have guidelines and good communication. In addition, there's the lack of the power struggle. If the man is submitting to the woman, everybody's in agreeance. You can kick back and enjoy life. Now, obviously, when you're making major life decisions, you want to take into consideration how your subbie feels, and some women may take that into consideration, some may not. I personally, if there's a major decision that needs to be made, I am more comfortable sitting down with my subbie and talking to him about it, going over pros and cons and things like that, because sometimes, when I want something really bad, I have a very one-track mind. I will do whatever it takes to get it, and I will convince myself of things that maybe I shouldn't. For instance, that's why we have two dogs. I had helpers with that one, though A man who willingly agrees to a female-led relationship won't mind being dominated. He might even love the woman better. That's so true, so true. Every relationship I have been in nothing compares to this, nothing. I have never been spoiled more. I've never been treated better. I have never been spoiled more. I've never been treated better. I've never been shown more respect than I have in this female-led relationship. Now, that's not saying you have to be in an FLR relationship to get respect, because that's not the case at all. However, there's boundaries, there's guidelines, and I truly believe that since we have entered into a female-led relationship, things are different. Since my subbie and I have really set down the foundation for our female-led relationship, things are even better than when we first met. Like things were perfect in my eyes when we first met, but once we started the female-led relationship and I, the hang of things. No, I'm not fucking perfect, as I've said before, but the more we delve into this and the more it becomes the norm of our relationship, the better our relationship gets. It's amazing, and I've never, ever communicated communicated with anybody like I communicate with my husband. So why would a man seek out a female-led relationship? Well, my first thought is it's fucking hot when the woman's in control. Just my opinion. However, maybe it's nice. Maybe the man has a stressful job where he has to make hard decisions all day long. How nice would it be to have a partner that makes all the decisions for you and takes that stress away? Now, that's going to take a lot of trust, which female-led relationships require a pretty big amount of trust. I've never trusted anybody like I trust my subbie ever. Communication is key. And trust Again if you don't have any power struggles at home and there's one person that's in charge of making all the decisions and you can just focus on your career, wouldn't that be great? No, that's not saying that you come home, put your feet up on the coffee table and, you know, drink a beer after work which I mean, my subbie doesn't, but you sure could. There's nothing that he has to decide when he gets home. He can basically just come home and mindlessly serve her. Doesn't that sound fantastic? I mean it does to me being the one being served. Of course, some men just crave that. It could be a mommy thing. And again and maybe that's what it was in my past relationships is I felt like I had to take care of everybody. But it's nice to have somebody you know make all your decisions for you. You don't have to take the time to think anything over. You know that somebody you totally trust is doing it for you. It's taken care of. You can just relax, focus on mindless things like doing the dishes, cleaning the house. Of course there is kinky playtime in a female-led relationship. However, in our relationship it's hard for us to have a kinky playtime Simply because we have a house full of people. We have kids in the house, animals, my mom, things like that. I also don't have a bedroom door Blows ass. It's real hard for us to have alone time. We almost have to leave the house, and that's also hard because we have kids in the house that are here all the time. We can't just leave them home alone overnight. I mean we probably could, but it seems like hell breaks loose when we try that. I mean, the older two are old enough to be home alone. They're almost 18. I mean, the older two are old enough to be home alone, they're almost 18. So you can have a female-led relationship without the kink to it, the kinky playtime, I should say. But in honesty, why isn't it just a healthy, normal relationship? I mean, if you look at it, a female-led relationship there's boundaries, strong communication, extreme trust. Sounds like a healthy, normal relationship to me, which I am not a fan of the word normal. Who defines what normal is? I just don't like that word. A female-led relationship is normal. So quick recap what is a female-led relationship? Female-led relationship is where the woman is in charge, dominant, she has a submissive. Now, what the dynamic of that is could be anything Depends on the couple. Why would a woman want to be in a female-led relationship? Well, maybe she's been in an abusive relationship in the past and doesn't want to take shit from anyone anymore. Wants to be in control. Being in control can sometimes lead to feeling safe. And what's more important than feeling safe in your relationship, especially if you've experienced abuse in the past? Why would a man want a female-led relationship? Well, because it's fucking hot and maybe he has a stressful job, doesn't want to make decisions when he comes home, trusts his spouse, dominant whatever you want to call her, trusts her to handle everything, even in female-led relationships. Mine particularly. I'm in control. I get the final say. I determine what happens in the end. However, like I said, I take my subbie's opinion to heart. I listen to what he has to say, I care about his opinions. I listen to what he has to say, I care about his opinions and, yes, I make all the decisions. But I also take very good care of him. He does a lot for me and sometimes I like to call him my slave, but I return the favor. He's very well taken care of. I just wish there wasn't such a stigma around the female led relationship and, in our case, chastity. People just don't understand and they don't take the time to understand. Ask questions if you don't know, do your own research. It's not as fucking freaky as everybody makes it out to be. Everybody has their own dynamic to what works for them. It doesn't have to be locked 24 seven, seven days a week. You can have a female led relationship that functions seven days a week, even with other people in the house and, like our kids don't don't know anything, as I mean they don't know anything about the lifestyle that we live. They don't know anything, I mean they don't know anything about the lifestyle that we live. They don't know that we practice a female-led relationship. They don't know that we're in a female-led relationship. They don't know that my husband practices chastity. Maybe someday they will, but not anytime soon. There's ways to make your relationship work for what works best for you. All you got to do is communicate, figure out what works and run with it. There'll be bumps in the road there always is. You just work through them and that's the best thing about this. I may be in control, but I have never felt like I have had a teammate in life and with my subbie I know that I can do anything as long as I have him by my side. Just something to think about. If anyone has any questions, my contact info is below. Hit me up. I love talking about it. Come back and listen next week. Hope everybody has a fantastic week. Bye, can we come in? Fuck off. I mean I don't know what else to say. This might be a little bit of TikTok rage. I don't know what else to say it. This might be a little bit of tiktok rage. I don't know what else to call it. I don't know if I've ever noticed on any other social media platform people being quite as mean as they are on tiktok, and I don't know if it's just because it's such a big social media platform or if people are just more brave fucking keyboard warriors or if it's all just a big ploy to get themselves more views, get into the algorithm. They say something that's absolutely horrible. Some of the comments I've seen and some of the bullying that I've seen on TikTok is insane. I just I don't understand. Like, do you feel better if you send a message on somebody's video saying you're fucking ugly or you're a hoe, or why not just let them be? Why can't you just scroll on? I mean, clearly there's something mentally wrong where you crave to be in drama or something I don't know. I don't know what it is.